Our son is nine now and more independent. There are so many gray areas on handling his food allergies… How can we help him handle these?
Even within the food allergy community, there are so many differences on how families handle different. Costco make beautiful cakes at a great price. And they have that super mousse layer with lots of icing on top. These cakes come with an allergy warning on them- and they should. The bakery area is a shared space where they seem to make many different products, many with nuts. I have tried to ask about food safety there, but the bakers are non-native English speakers and the talks were not productive.
So our guy with his sky-high allergy test numbers doesn’t eat these cakes. But other responsible food allergy families have done the same considering and come to a different conclusion.
It does help that both dear husband and dear daughter have a talent for baking and decorating custom cakes. Son always has something special and sugary to eat at parties.
It is definitely a balance for our son to respect others’ decisions but stick to what is best for him. How do you decide ?
Wonderful husband did the grocery shopping today for our Superbowl dinner tonight. This was great because I took son to Sunday school and picked up daughter from a sleepover.
He got a strange brand of canned tomatoes, which still looks OK. He got veggies, milk, etc. which were all fine.
But he bought Barilla pasta. This is made on the same line as their “extra protein” pastas, which are NOT fine for our chickpea and lentil allergic son. They are not required to list “chick peas” or “lentils” on their ingredients because these are not among the 8 most common allergens and so not covered by the labeling law. We called Barilla a couple years ago and confirmed that the chick pea and lentil ingredients could cross-contaminate all their other pasta.
Yesterday would have been a regular day for many 3rd grade kids. Our guy went to school, then to a friend’s house for the afternoon and evening. He came home around bed time.
For our guy it was the longest he’d be out without a parent with him. He bought lunch at school, had dinner at the friend’s place and went to a Boy Scout event in the evening. Very normal!
We did the prep work:
He carries his Epipen in his backpack, so that went with him all day.
We’ve gone with him to school on pizza Friday and he knows the items he can have.
He had his own dessert with him for lunch.
The friend’s mom is super about food allergies and she and I talked about dinner ahead of time.
I’m so proud of how he handled the Boy Scout event! Lots of snacks were involved and our guy didn’t see food he was comfortable with. Plus some of the snacks were buffet style and included tree nuts. He had fun but waited until he got home to eat his (large) bedtime snack. Yesterday was an awesome day for him!
Our peanut allergic boy turned 9 earlier this month and it had to be the easiest birthday for me ever.
Our Giant supermarket now has cupcakes “made in a peanut free facility.” They aren’t the fancy ones with the sports rings, just fairly plain. So I expected dear son to request home-made cupcakes, just like I’d always made. Nope, he was happy with the store-bought because that is what all the kids take in for birthdays.
Son also preferred I not come in to hand out the cupcakes. So that morning after a 5 minute drive and drop off at the school office, I was done! Amazing.
His party was easy also. He and his buddies did sports for an hour at Frozen Ropes. They all got along fine had super manners. Then they had Gatorade and Papa John’s Pizza. We did make the cake for this one!
I have to admit to mixed feelings about my son’s new independence. But he is moving on and growing up and I shouldn’t be in the way.